Perfectionism By Camy Zahiri (Age 11)

My name is Camy Zahiri, and I am 11 years old. I’m proud to be a Junior Ambassador for the Don’t Hide It Flaunt It (DHIFI) in Los Angeles. I am also a gymnast, on the Gymnastics Team at JAG Gym in Culver City, CA. I have been doing gymnastics for about 4 years now, and I have fallen in love with it. I practice 9 hours a week, and have won 2 State and 2 Regional Championships for USA Gymnastics. I know that you may be thinking what does gymnastics have to do with my Flaunt? So let me share my Flaunt with you.

I am a perfectionist and set high expectations for myself. You may be thinking, “Well, that’s a good thing.” But being a perfectionist is actually an invisible difference. My coaches often say, “Perfecting your skills in gymnastics is grit and helps you reach your goals”. That’s not necessarily always the case. Being perfectionistic can also lead to frustration and negative feelings. When I can’t reach my goal, or something doesn’t go my way in gymnastics, it makes me feel frustrated and dissatisfied which can be really annoying. It totally takes away the fun and joy in what I’m doing, and changes my learning experience.

Even though my difference is invisible, my classmates notice it. They have said to me for example, “OMG you have OCD!”Why can’t I have this little inch of my pencil case on your desk?!!” When they say things like this it makes me feel sad and annoyed.  I want to explain that it’s just my organized style and what I call my Perfectionism.

My brother sometimes asks me, “Why do you always have to get your way?” Being a perfectionist can definitely mean I like doing things my way. However, I also want to be a good and fair sibling, classmate, and team player so I have been working on being more flexible. I have to work at it by telling myself that if I don’t get my way, I’m learning how to grow, expand, and flex my brain and mind!

By sharing my Kid Flaunt and what makes me, me I have got so much support from my friends, Coaches, and teammates.  It means so much because they accept me and makes me feel so loved just the way I am! By opening up, I have also learned that some of my friends and teammates also have Perfectionism as their same invisible difference! Now we work on supporting one another to be more flexible, and to embrace our flaws and failures. My Kid Flaunt has given me such an opportunity to open up my heart and mind, and to not hide the fact who I am. Now I feel relaxed knowing I am honest with myself and committed to achieving my goals.  Most importantly, I am happy to be “Not So Perfect” and proud to Flaunt It!

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